Events & parties

Whether you’re looking for a relaxed lifestyle get-together, a playful night with like-minded people, or something a little more adventurous, our Events section is where the fun begins.

From intimate private parties and swingers nights to larger lifestyle gatherings, orgies or simple social get-togethers, you’ll find events happening around Auckland and, as our community grows, across New Zealand.

And if you fancy hosting something yourself? Even better. There’s room for that too!

Let me show you how it all works.

Finding Events & Parties

You’ll find everything under Events in the navigation menu at the top of the page (once you’re logged in as a member).

Browse upcoming events, see what’s happening around your area, and discover opportunities to meet other members of the lifestyle community.

Each event listing gives you the important details, including the event description, date, location (at least the city), what sort of gathering it is, and any requirements the host has set.

One little thing to remember: the actual street address stays under wraps until the host accepts you. We like a little mystery, darling, but we also take everyone’s privacy seriously.

Public Events – Getting Past the Velvet Rope

Public events are a great way to discover what’s happening and meet new people.

A host can list a public event, making it visible to members of the community. Anyone can request to attend, unless the host has blocked them or has set restrictions that their profile doesn’t meet.

But here’s the thing: requesting an invitation doesn’t automatically get you through the door!

When you request to attend, you’ll be placed on the Wait List. The host can then review requests and decide who they’d like to welcome along.

Once accepted, you move onto the Coming list. Think of it as getting past the velvet rope and making it onto the guest list.

The host has control over whether other members can see who’s on the Wait List or who’s already on the Coming list. However, once you’ve been accepted, you can always see who else is coming along.

And don’t worry, things aren’t set in stone. Hosts can remove guests if circumstances change, and members can withdraw their own attendance whenever they wish.

A Little Chat Before the Party

Getting accepted is only part of the fun!

Every event has its own chat room for members on the Coming list. It’s a place to get to know some of the other guests before the big night.

Talk about arrangements, discuss costumes, organise who might be bringing what, or simply have a little flirt with the people you’ll be meeting.

It’s a lovely way to break the ice before everyone walks through the door.

The Party’s Over, But the Connections Don’t Have to Be!

One of the nice things about our Events feature is that the memories and connections don’t disappear when the party is over.

Past events remain in the Event History, so you can revisit a gathering, reconnect with people you met on the night and keep those new friendships going.

You can also share photos from the event, giving everyone a chance to relive some of the fun and remember the people they spent the evening with.

Just remember, darling, that everyone’s privacy matters. Always get permission from anyone appearing in a photo before sharing it. Only those on the event Coming list can see the chat and the photos.

Hosts Can Set Their Own Guest Criteria

Not every party is for everybody, and that’s perfectly fine.

When creating a public event, hosts can choose which profile types are welcome to request attendance.

For example, they might open their doors to:

• Couples only.
• Solo females and couples.
• Couples and polycules.
• Or any other combination that suits their event.

Hosts can also set an age range for guests.

These settings help hosts attract the sort of crowd they’re looking for, while making it easier for members to find events that are right for them.

Private Events – By Invitation Only

Some gatherings are best kept a little more exclusive.

Hosts can choose to create a Private Event instead of a public one. Private events aren’t visible to the wider membership, and people can’t simply browse their way into them.

Instead, the host sends invitations to selected members.

It’s ideal for smaller gatherings, established friendship groups, private play nights or occasions where the host wants complete control over the guest list.

Of course, the same privacy protections apply: the event address remains hidden until an invited guest has been accepted.

What Sort of Events Will You Find?

Now, this is where things get interesting!

Lifestyle events come in all shapes and sizes, and it’s worth understanding that not every party has the same atmosphere or expectations.

Some events are full-on play parties, including orgies and group encounters. Others are more relaxed mix-and-mingle evenings, where people can socialise, flirt and get acquainted, and maybe with dedicated play spaces available for those who want to take things further.

And then there are gatherings that are purely social. No play, no pressure, just an opportunity to meet other like-minded people, make friends and enjoy some good company.

If you’re new to the lifestyle, I’d encourage you to read the event description carefully before requesting to attend. Make sure the event matches your interests, comfort levels and expectations.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with dipping your toes in the water before deciding whether you fancy diving in!

Fancy Hosting Your Own Event?

Perhaps you’ve got a great space, a group of friends who enjoy entertaining, or an idea for a gathering that you’d love to bring to life.

Why not host an event of your own?

You can create a public event and welcome requests from the wider community, or keep things private and invite selected members.

You decide the guest criteria, age range and who makes it onto the Coming list. You can manage your guest list, communicate with attendees through the event chat room and keep control of the arrangements.

Whether it’s an intimate get-together for a handful of couples or a much bigger lifestyle party, we’re here to help you bring people together.

A Few Things Worth Remembering

We’re all here to have a good time, but a great lifestyle community is built on respect, honesty and consideration for others.

Respect boundaries. Being invited to a party is an invitation to attend, not an expectation of intimacy or play.

Respect privacy. Event addresses are protected for a reason. Don’t share them outside the accepted guest list.

Read the description. Make sure you understand what sort of event you’re requesting to attend.

Be genuine. Hosts are entitled to choose their guests, and a request is just that – a request.

Be considerate. If your plans change, remove yourself from the Coming list so the host knows where they stand.

Ready to See What’s Happening?

Whether you’re an old hand at the lifestyle or just beginning to explore, there’s a whole community of people out there to meet.

Head over to Events in the navigation menu and see what’s coming up. You might find your next favourite night out, make some wonderful new friends, or even discover that you’re rather good at hosting!

And remember, darling, the best parties often start with a simple hello.

Lucy xx