Meet people

Looking to meet new people, find like-minded couples, make a few new friends or perhaps discover someone who makes your heart beat just a little faster?

Well, darling, you’re in the right place!

Spice Me Up Lucy is all about bringing together people who share an interest in the lifestyle. Whether you’re a couple, flying solo, part of a polycule or identify as non-binary or gender expansive, there’s a community here waiting to be discovered.

Let me show you how to find your people!

Finding People

Once you’re logged in, head to People in the navigation menu at the top of the page.

You’ll find a few options there, but for now we’re interested in Find People.

This is where you can browse member profiles, discover who’s around and find people you’d like to get to know.

You’ll find four profile types represented in the community:

• Couples – Partners looking to meet other couples, singles or whoever catches their interest.
• Solos – Individuals exploring the lifestyle and looking to make connections.
• Polycules – People in polyamorous relationships and interconnected partnerships.
• Non-binary & Gender Expansive – Members whose gender identity or expression doesn’t fit neatly into traditional categories.

Everyone has their own reasons for being here, and there’s no single way to enjoy the lifestyle.

Finding Exactly Who You’re Looking For

With a growing community, being able to narrow things down makes life a whole lot easier.

You can filter profiles by:

• Profile type – Choose couples, solos, polycules or non-binary/gender expansive members.
• Age – Set the age range you’re interested in.
• Location – Find people in your city or the area you’d like to explore.
• Name – Looking for someone in particular? Search by name.

A little detail about our age filtering: when a profile contains more than one person, we take the youngest and eldest ages into account. If either person falls within your selected age range, the whole profile will appear in your results.

So, for example, if you’re looking for people aged 35–50, a couple aged 38 and 47 will appear, as will a couple aged 32 and 45. We don’t split couples up just because one partner falls outside your selected range!

A Quick Guide to the Profile Cards

As you browse, you’ll notice that every profile has a coloured neon halo around its profile card.

The halo colour – yellow, green, pink, blue or purple – identifies the profile type, so you can get an immediate feel for who’s who without having to open every profile.

Each profile card also gives you a little sneak preview of the people behind it, including their chosen tagline and a brief introduction.

Hover over a profile image to reveal more information, including the ages and the mix of people in that profile. See someone interesting? Click their profile card to open their full profile and find out more.

Getting to Know People

This is where the fun really starts.

Take a look at their About Us section, see what makes them tick and check out their common interests. You’ll see that interests are rated by the people that added them – as either ‘into’ or ‘curious about’. If someone has indicated that they’re curious about something that you’re well into, then that’s a perfect opportunity to strike up a conversation.

You might discover that you share a passion for hot wifing, enjoy the same sorts of dance parties, have similar interests in kink, or simply like the look of each other!

Everyone chooses their own tagline and tells their own story, so take a little time to read what people have written. There’s often much more to someone than their profile picture.

And if you like what you see, why not say hello?

Real People. Genuine Connections

We’re a new community, and we’re still building our membership. We’re not going to pretend that thousands of profiles are already waiting around the corner.

What matters to us is that the profiles you do find represent real people who are genuinely interested in making connections.

We want to build a community where people feel comfortable reaching out, knowing there’s a real person on the other end.

If you come across a profile that looks suspicious, or fake, or something just doesn’t feel right, please report it to us. We’ll quietly investigate and take appropriate action.

We’d much rather have a smaller community of genuine people than thousands of profiles that lead nowhere.

A Word About Photos & Privacy

One thing you’ll notice is that not everyone displays their face or identifying features in their public profile photos.

That’s entirely understandable. Many people in the lifestyle have good reasons for being discreet, whether it’s work, family or simply their personal preference.

Please respect that.

Identifying tattoos, faces and other personal details can make someone recognisable, even when they haven’t shared their name. Don’t try to identify people or share their photos elsewhere.

As you get to know someone and build a little trust, you may find they’re happy to share private photos with you.

There’s no need to rush things. Trust is something we build, not something we’re automatically entitled to.

Getting Out There – That’s the Whole Point!

Now, here’s something I really want you to remember.

Meeting people on Spice Me Up Lucy is just the beginning. The whole idea is to make genuine connections that extend beyond the screen.

Have a chat with someone you’ve been messaging. Suggest catching up for a coffee, going out for a drink or meeting somewhere relaxed.

Perhaps you’ll hit it off and organise a playdate, arrange a get-together over a dinner party, or even put together a little intimate soiree for four, six or more!

Not every connection needs to lead to something intimate, either. You might make some wonderful friends along the way.

Our community is here to help bring like-minded people together, but the magic really happens when you get out there and meet them.

Be Nice to Each Other, Darlings!

One last thing, and it’s an important one.

We’re all here to have fun, explore, make connections and enjoy ourselves. But everyone arrives with different experiences, expectations and comfort levels.

A little kindness goes a long way.

• Be friendly and approachable. A simple hello can make someone’s day.
• Respect people’s boundaries. No means no, and nobody owes anyone a response.
• Be mindful of experience levels. Some members have been exploring the lifestyle for years; others are just starting out.
• Don’t make assumptions. Everyone has their own interests, preferences and boundaries.
• Look out for one another. We’re building a community, and we all have a part to play in making it a good one.

Nobody sets out to offend, and occasionally people will misunderstand each other. Give a little grace, communicate openly and treat others as you’d like to be treated.

After all, we’re all here for a good time!

So, Who Would You Like to Meet?

Head over to People → Find People, have a browse and see who’s out there.

Your next great conversation, new friendship or exciting adventure might be just one profile away.

Go on, darling. Don’t be shy!

Lucy x